What is the true purpose of soulmates?

Many people think that the true purpose of soulmate is to live happily ever after. Unfortunately it's not always this easy. In the movies soulmate relationships are very romantic. But in reality, it’s working really hard on the relationship.

Both souls need to be independant, and work on their self-worth. They should not avoid their life lessons and challenges (learning experiences). Usually there is one soulmate who is ‘the runner’, but sometimes it varies, and they can both be the runner for a while.

Please know that you cannot force your soulmate to change. The soulmate relationship isn’t about your soulmate, but about yourself. What you need to learn in this relationship. Usually loving yourself more, setting bounderies, etc.

Soulmates meetings can help to relive and let go of trauma, certain themes that have been going on your whole life (feeling abandoned, not receiving love from your parents, etc). Your soulmate will do nothing else, than mirror these emotions back to you, usually subconsciously.

The only thing you can do is work on yourself. Build a new foundation, perhaps with the help of a good therapist, or healer. The process of healing takes time as well. And you should not be too hard on yourself.

Because you start to love yourself more, it will be easier to set bounderies with your soulmate. In some cases to net let your soulmate “abuse” you, drain your energy, or take over their karma.

Not one person can take over the karma of another human being. You will not help your soulmate one bit, by doing so, they need to learn on their own.

The fear of losing your soulmate, is something everybody experiences. It’s a part of your ego. You can never loose your soulmate, this person has a special place in your heart. You can also not own another person. So it’s an illusion, you cannot loose anyone. Usually there is a process of push-pull. If your soulmate is already withdrawn, there is nothing to lose.

The goal is actually always self-worth, building self-love and learning all life lessons, your Soul has to offer you.

You can mirror your soulmate; by giving the right example, to keep working on yourself all the time. Don’t try to force your soulmate to contact you, you will only push them away even more.

As long as you keep forcing, you love isn’t unconditional just yet, and you still have a lot to learn.

Of course, it’s a human emotion to want to be together. It’s important to stay kind to yourself during this process. To allow your emotions in, to accept them, so you can eventually let go. Suppressing your emotions is never the answer. And letting go also takes time, and takes a lot of different phases, to finally achieve it.

Most people feel their soulmate pulling their energy, because you are telepathically connected. You can even sense physical discomfort, and experience a deep longing, which can really overwhelm you. It’s very difficult not to act upon it. Your soulmate misses you, and wants you to contact him/her. Please try to find help, with psychics or healers, who have experience dealing with soulmates. So they can give you the right tools to handle it.

You can also try a ritual, like burning candles for your soulmates Highest Good, talking to their Soul, but also make clear you will not allow them to drain your energy anymore.

Other people find it useful to call upon Archangel Michael, to break the cords. Please know that these cords can never be broken completely, this is impossible, but it will help you loosen them, so you will be able function again.

Don’t fall for the trap psychics trying to sell you spells, to bring your soulmate back to you, these are always frauds!

Every human being has Free Will, and as long as your soulmate is experiencing fear, or listens to his ego, in stead of his heart and Soul, this process cannot be forced.

The eventual goal is always self-development. Each at their own pace. Your soulmate should no longer be the one to focus on completely. Only when you have enough self-love, and you are no longer dependant on your soulmate to love you or heal you, you have learned the most important lesson there is.

© Arlette
 

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Date: 26-06-'18

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